Bitterness towards someone…..

Bitterness towards someone can be easy to fall into. Where they did not keep their word, betrayed you or whatever. Usually leaves you with hate and blame

 

 

 

 

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but the truth is, hate and blame will not help  you.

Yes it will make you feel better

but it wont help you toward your goal, the exam your trying to pass, obstacle your trying to overcome, or skill your trying to acquire.

No amount of blame and hate can help you toward your goal.

So if you step back and look at what bitterness is, its just a person alone, pouting about what a person did and with no positive effect.

so are you still going to be bitter?

or you can

Instead use that energy too propel you toward your goal, instead of getting upset about what he or she did. use that energy to use it towards something that will help.

Since small, little changes or adjustments make a huge difference.

 

 

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One bad thing to be controlled by.

Fear, fear is one of the things a person should never be controlled by, when a person makes decisions out of fear, they are constantly worrying.

Motivated by fear, it will cling deeply to your mind, as if you let it control your actions, you will be constantly walking around with an aura of being frightened.

Making you conform, taking away your happiness and peace of mind.

 

Which is no way a person should live, as it slowly deteriorates the standards of your life.

 

 

 

Soon enough you will be living miserably, with sadness.

 

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But once you are able to break from it and confront or do what you fear, you will be set free.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What they don’t tell you about confidence

 

Do you know what about a person that makes them confident?

 

There are other factors, influencing  a persons confidence such as belief in themselves or environment that there in, also there self concept and how they see themselves to be, however there is one which isn’t really mentioned.

And that is..

 

 

 

 

A correlation of how much a person likes and love themselves

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Usually when a person likes and loves themselves alot this generates high self esteem, since it shows appreciation towards themselves.

For example, do you remember a time in your life when a person really appreciated you, someone admired you or said a good things about you, when this happens a person starts to feel good about themselves and when a person starts to feel good about themselves, they start to feel confident about themselves.

So the more you start to like and love yourself, the more confident you will be in yourself.

Giving you higher self esteem and with a higher self esteem the quality of your life will improve.

 

A person who lacks appreciation of themselves.

Will withhold themselves from opportunity and will take disrespect from others.

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I remember reading a book and i remember reading something interesting, it said that, ” A person will only let the other person abuse them as much as they abuse themselves”

So if you don’t really appreciate yourself, you will be more vulnerable to have someone disrespect you and you will only take as much as you abuse yourself.

 

So ask yourself this, what can i do to start to appreciate myself more.

And for alot of people Two main things need to happen

  1. They need to let go of the past and there mistakes
  2. They need to cut out the negative story or false idea they have about themselves, because every time you say something or think something negative about yourself, you will start to reinforce it and believe it and demonstrate those qualities.

 

Whatever you decide to do after reading this is up to you, but remember this

 

A person will only let the other person abuse them as much as they abuse themselves

 

A Simple method to get stuff done!

 

When we have to do something whether its completing a project or trying to finish off a book. Do you ever keep postponing it or get lazy and end up doing something else?

For me, i was struggling to finish off a book which i should have completed long ago, i was reading very few pages and was going through the book way too slowly. Now I’m sure people can relate to this in their own different way. We all have stuff we should complete but end up leaving it for tomorrow and so on and the cycle continues.

So instead of putting it to the side, here’s how to get it done quick.

So here it is.

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Set a date on when to finish it.

By setting a date when to finish it by, it will give you something you can work towards, something you can track and as the date gets closer, you’l start to feel the pressure, this will help propel you and motivate you to complete it.

Since without a deadline or date to complete it by, we start taking advantage of the time we have and don’t really give it its importance but with a deadline and the nearer it gets to it, what you work on starts to have value and hold importance on making you much more likely to work on it and complete it.

Add more pressure.

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Now some people might be confused  about adding more pressure.

What i mean is this, if for example, you set a date to finish reading a book on a certain time, you might want to add more pressure by ordering another book that will come the next day after your deadline which you will schedule to read.

Now with this, you will become even more propelled to finish the book by the deadline, since you will have something else you will have to work on or complete and people don’t like to be overflowed with tasks, this will help force you to complete what you are currently doing to help keep you on top of  things.

A habit which can do alot for you

A habit that can do alot for you

 

Action, the habit of action serves a person well, for the one that takes action saves themselves alot of time.

I’m sure with everyone, we usually post pone things we want to do for our own reasons but the person who has the habit of action to do it now, to achieve it, or to get going on it always accomplishing it and finishes it, far before the one who postpones it.

The one who postpones it may never actually ever do it, they may ponder about it having it in their imagination but they usually wait to long and slowly they let it go and never end up doing it.

However there is a chance that they will end up doing it but that usually takes months, sometimes years for them.

The habit of action is one of the best habits a person can have and one that will serve a person most well.

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An important lesson for affirmation users

Coming up with the right affirmations

From my personal experience with affirmations, I’ve learnt that you should make and use an affirmation which feels good and when you do this, the affirmation will be effective and install more quickly.

Now the mistakes i made when using affirmations , was that i made one too quickly, since i wanted to get started on getting rid of the negative belief i had.

So at first when i started to use the affirmation , it felt good, however soon after i didn’t feel good when i was used it, i wouldn’t feel anything when i used the affirmation, i stopped feeling the positive emotion i would feel when i first started using it but i still carried on using the affirmation  and after a certain amount of time, when i would say the affirmation, i wouldn’t feel good, something about it felt wrong and i wasn’t getting any results.

So its important to pick the right affirmation so when you use it, you will get results, instead of making one which isn’t right for you and using it would be ineffective

So i made a technique to help and figure it out, if it is the right affirmation for you to use and it will save you time.

Step 1 – Identify what affirmation you want to install into your subconscious mind.

Step 2- Write down about 5 variations of that affirmation, so if it was about happiness it could be

” I’m a happy person”

” I’m filled with joy”

Etc…

If you find an affirmation that feels good, from the 5 affirmations that you’ve came up with, don’t start using it the same day, but come back to it the next day.

Step 3 – Re read the affirmations you made and see if the affirmation you made still makes you feel good, like when you read it on the day before, if you still feel good from reading the affirmation you made, then that affirmation is the right one for you.

 

 

Accelerating experience idea’s

Some basic application to develop more experience in something but i feel like it is over looked and not given the importance it needs

 

 

 

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Applications to apply

 

  1. Productivity-

If you start becoming more productive and you start working on the field you want to gain experience in, by becoming more productive you will be able to do more, so that means you get do more activities, complete more responsibility’s, whatever you need to do to gain experience in the field you want.

But if you look at unproductive people, people who aren’t as driven, some who are lazy, some who can’t stick to one task and complete it. Because when they’re doing a task they might start going on their phone, doodling around and it ends up taking them ten times longer to complete it.

By comparison between the two the one whose productive and the one who isn’t, you can tell that the more productive one is going to accomplish more, leaving him with more completed actives in his arsenal, giving him more things to look back over in the future.

Meaning more experience.

 2. Immerse yourself in the subject

Reading books

Now by reading books you are being more of an active learning and your submerging  your brain with this particular subject or craft,  giving you a better understanding of it and with a better understanding of your craft, you can usually excel at it and pick things up faster.

Self reflecting

When performing or executing your craft , there are something’s which we usually miss, maybe you rush things, think to narrowly, whatever it is. Always self reflect back on what you’ve done and think if you’ve missed anything, or think the next time I do it, how can i make it better.

With this mindset you start seeing things which you’ve missed, you start putting yourself at a different view point.

Showing you more of what’s already there.

 

 

 

 

My opinion on pateince

 

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Patience can be tricky, don’t you think?

When your going for a goal or working towards it, you want to see the results and people say be patient but here’s the other side of patience.

Patience can also be a bad thing in a way,

What i mean is have you ever said to yourself in the past, that i was too patient or i should of done or did something different  sooner.

Its not about being patient ,its about knowing when to stop what your doing and try something else when trying to reach a goal, i remember when i was trying to reach a goal of mine, i was patient and was working towards, though i was frustrated at times i reminded myself to be patient and wait for the results.

But they never came and when i stopped doing what i was doing and tried something else my results escalated alot.

Yet i was patient working towards my goal yet i wasn’t getting any results.

So its this its not about being patient and waiting, its about knowing when to stop what your doing or to keep going.

 

 

Never Conform

Conformity is one of the most frequent things people do don’t you think?

People conform to the ideas of others, they conform and behave similar to the ideas people have about you.

Yet when people want to change or improve their life, its often met by the rejection and negativity of others thinking, that they shouldn’t act out of character, or they should stay the same as they are, they should’t be more assertive, courageous, etc…

Or if someone has a really big dream they want to make, its often met by doubt or laughter.

However you will have to go through rejection, doubt of others or people not liking what your doing in order to change and push through your own barriers

But once done the rewards will be great.

 

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Whats always together?

What do you think you think every human being has and is always together with?

Alot of things we have are temporarily, wouldn’t you agree?

Your car, TV, laptop, etc…

But whats always together with you

Deep down inside you there lies the essence of who you are, regardless of how much you act differently or think your something else, the essence of you will always be together with you.

People can potentially steal a lot from you, but not the essence of who you are.

Are you letting the essence of who you really are being expressed, is it sometimes, if so whats the cause or situation where you don’t express it in?

One thing i know for sure when expressed, the world and everything seems better . 🙂

 

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Inspired to do this blog by today’s daily prompt

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/together/